i am lucky that i get to talk to so many different individuals when they come and sit in my chair, the one thing that bothers me the most is how many of us lack confidence in our lives
when i ask someone about their jobs i here “im waiting for my boss to give me a raise” or “if i don’t get a promotion soon im quitting” whats the deal? why are we “waiting” for someone else to do anything for us? we need to stop waiting and start doing!
if you doing a great job at work your boss will likely never just “give” you a raise if you don’t go and ask for one! he would much rather keep you at your job and pay you the same wage as long as you keep your mouth shut and continue your hard work. you need to go ask for a raise! but don’t be fooled you better have a good reason why you deserve one! he will respect you even more if you come prepared and explain why you need one. ie… your been at the same job for a long time and your are excellent at it, but you get very little in the way of a wage increase, it’s probably less than what inflation is so in actuality your making less than when you started because your cost of living is higher.
don’t you think that you should get at least a dollar and hour increase per year at your job? i do! with your experience and knowledge one dollar an hour more is the least you should be getting, imagine how much money you’ve made your boss in the last year and how much your saving him in training new employees and other cost of having a high staff turnover.
what im trying to say is that we are so scared of rejection that we can’t even take the chance to enable a discussion about it.
remember when you were 18 and at the night club or even younger when you were in school and you were attracted to someone, you were probably one of the many who were waiting for the other person to initiate the flirting and what happened? nothing! because someone else swooped in an talked to them first and you were left wondering “what if”. what if i just went over to her and said hi? well is it to late now? i don’t know only you do. but i will tell you this. the next time you go out look around and see someone older who is flirting with a younger person and usually you might think its funny , but wait! look at them, there probably the only person who is trying! they were probably you when they were younger and were too scared to say anything but now what do they have to lose? nothing! there going home alone anyways so why not try? the worst that could happen is they say “no” . then it wasnt meant to be anyways and you can at least move on to better things instead of wondering “what if”
Get out there, take a chance! i did and it paid off for me and that’s why im telling you to do the same! “life it to short to hate your job!” if you just stand there watching it go by you’ll miss all the great things that could have been. if your waiting for the other person to initiate you’ll be waiting a very long time.
i actually have been so busy with moving to our new house and 3 boys in hockey and also playing hockey myself still i forgot about writing on my blog until i received an email from my web guy Seong to tell me to get back on here! thanks Seong!
